Wednesday, March 21, 2018

Who is listening?

I have recently listened to a seminar regarding listening and I found it very educational and thought provoking and it has made me more diligent in my awareness of my own listening.

My initial response when listening is skepticism. I was surprised to realize this. Where does this come from, is this really who I am?

I invite you to explore a few of the following ideas with me. Listening and some of the distinctions of listening, like the "I can't hear this", or cynical listening, or resigned listening.
Most of us have polluted listening and we are not even aware of it. We relate to listening from our own point of view. We listen from our own assumptions....(that's just the way it is) When we are trapped in this listening, when the listening is you and you are the listening, it is almost impossible to see or hear the miraculous wisdom around us.

The listening that we are, colors our world. How we listen and who we are is indistinguishable and shapes our world and is all pervasive. When we start paying attention to who (the who your are) is listening and being aware of the listening that you already are (cynical, skeptical, resigned etc), we can get behind the thoughts and listen from our source and not our ego.

Here's an example of the listening that some of us already are...."I already know this, something is wrong here, what does this have to do with me, how can I fix this or what is my response going to be"
We listen from our cynical selves, our judgmental selves, our fixer, healer selves. The key is to get present to who and what is listening, to have a listening instead of the listening having you. Our limits to what is possible in our world comes from our listening.

I am spending this week distinguishing who (the who that I am) is listening...
Is it the cynical Heidi? Is it the judgmental Heidi? Is it the "I can fix this" or "something is wrong here" Heidi? Is it the "I already know this" Heidi or even the "when is this over", Heidi?

To delve a little deeper into why we listen the way we do, we may need to delve into who we think we are. Who we think we are comes form our past. It comes from what we know about ourselves and our world and it really isn't who we are.  Our past and who we think we are is colored by our "stories", our interpretations of what actually happened and NOT what truly happened. I say this to allow you to consider that some of the things you think you are, are illusions.

Our past experiences may have led us to believe that we don't matter, that we are not enough, that we don't deserve affection, people or things. We therefore may think we are negative, cynical, self absorbed, a perfectionist etc. Some of these qualities may describe us and we have bought into it and now wear it as a badge of identity.

Let's be clear, who you are, does not come from your past or what you think or know about life. You, at the source, are a totally different being.

To discover who that is, you must let go of all of the past and be willing to consider that it has nothing to do with who you are. Discovering who you are means being present. Being in this moment and paying attention to who is listening? Who is feeling and who is doing? Is it the past, wounded and resigned you? Interrupting the who is listening and bringing it back to the present allows for a miraculous change in your life, your world and your being.

I really hope you could follow this and if nothing else just start paying attention to your listening and try to get behind your thoughts and be present.

Listen for the miraculous....listen for the wisdom that is going to impact your life and change it in ways you could only imagine before. Or at least listen as if the words being expressed are something precious such as gold or water to the thirsty.





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