Relationships....

 Oh my word,

I am being blown away by the information and wisdom coming to my inbox lately.

I am an avid follower of shamanism and Alberto Villoldo and he wrote this beautiful piece on relationships/marriage and I know you will all learn or receive something from this if you stay open.

"In many cultures around the world, the Spiritual Seeker is celibate – and that’s a wonderful way of avoiding the complexity and complications of relationships. The shaman understands that we are attracted to those people that we have to learn with and learn through. Most of our early relationships are deeply karmic. We are looking for that person who can help us heal our wounds, who can help us find ourselves. And, of course, we can never do that through the Other. The Other only serves as a mirror for what it is that we need to heal. A friend of mine who is getting divorced recently told me: “I miss the woman that I married, but I don’t miss at all the woman I’m divorcing.” And that’s because she became such a clear mirror for him of what he needed to do to heal himself. I told him, “You have to stop looking for the right partner, and instead work on becoming the right partner.” When we understand that marriage is the arena where we can go to meet Spirit face-to-face, and when we practice deep gratitude for all of those difficult lessons that our partner is offering us, then we can truly evolve our relationship. But if we insist on making the Other wrong, then we are only going to dig ourselves deeper into our hole. Our task is not to look for someone who is going to be more like us, but to find the person that we can commit to a healing journey with. When you think you have found that person, go through a courtship process like the one I did with my wife, Marcela. Examine the seven chakras on the body and make a commitment at the level of each chakra. At the first chakra: How are you going to help each other with your survival needs, your basic identity needs, and are you going to commit to each other in meeting your most fundamental needs? This is where you will learn if you have the foundation to keep building. Do you feel safe? Can you disclose yourself, who you really are, and not who you want others to see you as? Can you trust this person to not hurt you if you show your soft underbelly? This is what it’s all about, and you have to be willing to reveal yourself, and to talk about it – which can be scary and painful. At the second chakra: How are you going to embrace the Other for who he/she is – and all the gifts, blessings and curses? Are you willing to receive them and embrace them and commit to help the Other discover the fullness of their being? At the third chakra: How can you acknowledge, respect and contribute to each other’s power and expression in the world without feeling threatened by it? At the fourth chakra, the heart: How can you dedicate yourselves to practicing unconditional love – and by that I mean love that is not conditioned by our upbringing, by mommy and daddy. Unconditioned love is based on honoring the Other. At the fifth chakra: How can you respect each other’s voice? Can you make a commitment to hear the Other deeply, to be a good listener, to be a careful witness to your partner and invite their voice to be developed to its fullest, versus a hidden whisper for fear of offending. At the sixth chakra: How can you support each other’s vision of your journey in the world? At the seventh chakra: How can you have a joint spiritual practice? You must go through the seven levels of deep commitment that are required for a fulfilling relationship, because if you have only six – say that at your second chakra, your sense of self, you don’t feel you are being received or respected by your partner – it’s not going to work. If you do the work at each of these levels, then you can grow the kind of relationship that can thrive, even in the most challenging of times. Many of us start out hoping we have found the most perfect partner out there … and that lasts for about two weeks (or if you really stretch it, maybe two months). But we can become the right partner by going through this series of initiations. Blessings, ​ ​ Alberto Villoldo - The Four Winds"

YES, YOU are enough

 Oh my word,

This article hit the spot for me. I could not have said it any better....

There are many times that I have feelings of inadequacies and it usually happens when I am comparing myself to others and the major accomplishments and philantrophic work they do. I forget that being me, being true to myself and loving myself is enough. The energy of that fullness and radiance emanates and shines on everyone you meet. 

We never know how our being-ness and energy affects others and the healing affect we have by giving a smile, a hug, words of encouragement and/or positivity. By following our passion and sharing ourselves authentically we have a powerful impact on the world around us. We are all and integral part of the tapestry of life and the world needs us to be just as we are.

I hope this article from the DAILYOM inspires and touches your heart like it did mine...

You Are Enough

Just being here, being ourselves, is enough. Most of us have the feeling that we are here to accomplish something big in our lives, and if we haven't done something that fits the bill we may feel as if we are waiting. We may feel incomplete, or empty, as if our lives don't yet make sense to us, because they don't line up with our idea of major accomplishment. In some cases, this may be because we really are meant to do something that we haven't yet done. But in most cases, we can let ourselves off the hook with the realization that just being here, being ourselves, is enough.   As we live our lives in this world, we share our energy and our spirit with the people around us in numerous ways. Our influence touches their lives and, through them, touches the lives of many more people. When we strive to live our lives to the fullest and to become our true selves, we are doing something big on an inner level, and that is more than enough to make sense of our being here on this planet at this time. There is no need to hold ourselves to an old idea in the back of our minds that we need to make headlines or single-handedly save the world in order to validate our existence.   We can each look within our hearts to discover what is true for us, what gives our lives meaning, and what excites us. We can release ourselves from any pressure to perform that comes from outside of our inner sense of purpose. Staying in tune with our own values and living our lives in tune with our own vision is all we need in order to fulfill our time here. Our lives are a process of becoming so that we cannot help but cocreate; being who we are, responding to each moment as it comes, we can trust that this is enough.

Judgement...why we suffer

 I am practicing the art of acceptance and surrender and releasing judgement. I find myself judging myself often..the way I look, the way I speak or some of the things I say, my body, my abilities etc. and therefore I end up placing judgment upon others, either consciously or mindlessly. It can be a knee jerk reaction and is usually associated with my own fears and insecurities. I am choosing to pay attention to these moments so that I may heal my inner wounds and pre-conceptions and create the world of love and kindness I wish to live in. It all starts with me.

I love this piece as It sums up the subject very succinctly...Enjoy!

Judging Others (Daily OM)

To acknowledge that we have judged and why, is the first step to a path of compassion. Though it is human to evaluate people we encounter based on first impressions, the conclusions we come to are seldom unaffected by our own fears and our own preconceptions. Additionally, our judgments are frequently incomplete. For example, wealth can seem like proof that an individual is spoiled, and poverty can be seen as a signifier of laziness -- neither of which may be true. At the heart of the tendency to categorize and criticize, we often find insecurity. Overcoming our need to set ourselves apart from what we fear is a matter of understanding the root of judgment and then reaffirming our commitment to tolerance.   When we catch ourselves thinking or behaving judgmentally, we should ask ourselves where these judgments come from. Traits we hope we do not possess can instigate our criticism when we see them in others because passing judgment distances us from those traits. Once we regain our center, we can reinforce our open-mindedness by putting our feelings into words. To acknowledge to ourselves that we have judged, and that we have identified the root of our judgments, is the first step to a path of compassion. Recognizing that we limit our awareness by assessing others critically can make moving past our initial impressions much easier. Judgments seldom leave room for alternate possibilities.  Mother Teresa said, "If you judge people, you don't have time to love them." If we are quick to pass judgment on others, we forget that they, like us, are human beings. As we seldom know what roads people have traveled before a shared encounter or why they have come into our lives, we should always give those we meet the gift of an open heart. Doing so allows us to replace fear-based criticism with appreciation because we can then focus wholeheartedly on the spark of good that burns in all human souls.  ~ dailyom.com

Returning to nature for true nurturing..

 In times of stress and trauma, I always find such solace in Nature. I had a very traumatic experience this past weekend and found myself on our front lawn, walking on the dewy grass, soaking up some mother earth energy. I was hurting inside and trying to soak up some loving nurturing energy from mother earth. I stood by our tree (a smaller locust tree) and felt the love pouring from it and i just had to hug it and let the tears flow. It felt so accepting and loving and healing. I stayed there for as long as I needed and then just sat next to the tree for a while and then lay on the grass, spread eagle, soaking up the wind and the sun. It was a good release.

Message: The spirit of the black locust urges us to live to our fullest potential, to travel and experience life in all its complexities. By expanding our world, we expand our worldview and thus our knowledge base. Knowledge is an important aspect when practicing discernment. This is a time of new ideas and intellectual pursuits.  (Tree spirit Tarot - Return to the garden of the Soul by Laural Wauters)

Enjoy this beautifully written piece from the DailyOm....

Hugging a Tree

If you are feeling anxious, sad, or drained, try hugging a tree and allow her vast amount of grounding energy to assist you. Trees are among the world's greatest givers. Their slow and gentle life cycles provide the world with clean air, their roots filter water, and their majestically spreading branches provide shade. Full of vibrant, natural energy, trees can also give us the gifts of peace and nurturance. Hugging or sitting with your spine against the trunk of any tree can ground your body and inspire a profound closeness with nature as the energy of the tree connects to you. Making physical contact with a tree can help you relax, alleviate stress, sleep more deeply, and hold on to more positive energy. Trees can absorb great amounts of energy and have the ability to soak up harmful energy from deep within you. If you are feeling anxious, sad, drained, or tense, then try hugging a tree.     Go to the woods, a garden, or a park, and find a tree that you would like to hug. Stand next to the tree and close your eyes. Relax your senses while breathing in the scent of leaves and bark. Listen to the creaking of the branches. When you feel settled, open your eyes, keeping them unfocused, and walk around its trunk. Feel the unique energy of the tree as your auras meet each other. Ask the tree for permission to touch it. If you feel the tree saying yes to you, begin breathing in its energy. Put your arms around the trunk and press your face to its bark. Embrace the tree for as long as you wish, feeling the roughness of its wood and the strength of its years. Relax into that strength and let the tree support you. You may even be able to physically feel a cyclical flow of energy taking place between your body and the tree.     You can sit with your back pressed to the tree for the same effect if you feel more comfortable doing so. Likewise, if you are seeking greater comfort, you may want to wrap your legs and arms around the tree, either at the base or by straddling a branch. Remember to thank the tree because by hugging your tree you are drinking from the well of natural copious energy cultivated by the tree's many years on this earth.

We are all part of the Human race...we are all family in humanity

 

Once again the OM article says is best. We are all one family called Humanity. We are all Earth citizens and if one experiences pain and dis-ease we all get affected. Let's treat each other with the love and respect we all desire.  Enjoy this beautifully written piece..... Humanity

We are human, we are family -- we all look at the same stars, we all laugh and cry, we all love. When it comes to our families, we sometimes see only our differences. We see the way our parents cling to ideas we don't believe, or act in ways we try not to copy. We see how practical one of our siblings is and wonder how we can be from the same gene pool. Similarly, within the human family we see how different we are from each other, in ways ranging from gender and race to geographical location and religious beliefs. It is almost as if we think we are a different species sometimes. But the truth is, in our personal families as well as the human family, we really are the same.     A single mother of four living in Africa looks up at the same stars and moon that shine down on an elderly Frenchman in Paris. A Tibetan monk living in India, a newborn infant in China, and a young couple saying their marriage vows in Indiana all breathe the same air, by the same process. We have all been hurt and we have all cried. Each one of us knows how it feels to love someone dearly. No matter what our political views are, we all love to laugh. Regardless of how much or how little money we have, our hearts pump blood through our bodies in the same way. With all this in common, it is clear we are each individual members of the same family. We are human.     Acknowledging how close we all are, instead of clinging to what separates us, enables us to feel less alone in the world. Every person we meet, see, hear, or read about is a member of our family. We are truly not alone. We also begin to see that we are perfectly capable of understanding and relating to people who, on the surface, may seem very different from us. This awareness prevents us from disconnecting from people on the other side of the tracks, and the other side of the world. We begin to understand that we must treat all people for what they are -- family.

Next Level wholeness and Emotional Healing

Healing Childhood wounds

 

It is essential to discover and heal childhood wounds if you do not wish to be living your life from a wounded perspective where you may dump all of that unto the world around you. Your triggers stem from past experiences and if you wish to live a fuller and healthier life, it is vital to remove the energy blockages caused my past traumas and events.

I love this piece written by Taylor regarding healing childhood wounds. And if you need assistance contact Natural Health Haven LLC and we will be able to assist you or point you to the correct practitioner for you.

Healing yourself shift the energy of everyone around you and helps health the world.

"Healing Childhood Wounds (DailyOM)

We all have the ability to heal ourselves from childhood pain at the deepest level

Events from childhood, our first experiences, have the power to shape our lives. Some do so immediately, offering us challenges to overcome and encouragement to make use of our talents and interests. In the process character is built, and we make the first steps upon our personal paths. Other events seem to lay dormant until adulthood, when our closest relationships help to bring out the deepest aspects of ourselves. This is when unexamined lessons can be put to use and untended childhood wounds make themselves known in a call for healing.  

We may discover issues of trust coming up, or perhaps we find ourselves mirroring actions from our past instinctively. No matter the case, we have the power within us to heal ourselves at the deepest level. With the wisdom of an adult, we can be the loving parent or guardian we needed as a child. Knowing that we are each whole spiritual beings having a human experience, we can nurture ourselves from that wholeness, and then reach out to others as well. We can recreate scenarios in our mind's eye, trying different outcomes and following them to their logical conclusions. In doing so, we may be able to imagine possible reasons a situation occurred as it did, and even accept that it could not have happened any other way. With the wisdom born from age and experience, we might be able to see events from a different perspective, bringing new understanding and freeing ourselves from any hold the past may have on us. 

Life offers opportunities to clear these weeds in the gardens of our souls. However, when we want to focus on easier and more pleasant tasks, we are likely to pass up the chances, leaving the wounds to continue to drain our energy and resources for living life fully today. We might find we need support to face the events of the past, so turning to a trained professional who can offer tools for healing can be a valid choice. As long as we remember that the child we were lives on within us,  we are always free to go back and right old wrongs, correct mistaken perceptions, heal wounds, forgive, and begin anew. "